tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1430525993202457270.post9218037218313506186..comments2024-01-18T03:45:57.360-05:00Comments on Moving Mountains: Controversy in Discipline...Rebekah Hubleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05636941662295262349noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1430525993202457270.post-12301761467146988002009-01-26T23:17:00.000-05:002009-01-26T23:17:00.000-05:00I have done this...if a kid breaks something that ...I have done this...if a kid breaks something that needs repair (like once Will pulled down a curtain rod), he has to sit there and watch while dad fixes it...no playing or helping (because that would be fun), but just sit and watch. Also when one of mine continued to wet the bed and I knew it was just out of laziness to get out of bed in them morning, I made him sit in his room the whole time it took me to wash, dry, and put his sheets back on his bed. So pretty much it made them realize that these 'little' things they were doing were 'big' things for mom and dad, and took a lot of time to fix or clean, etc.Lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03466209851711568938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1430525993202457270.post-87084538090775311182009-01-25T21:28:00.000-05:002009-01-25T21:28:00.000-05:00We struggle just like you as we have a very creati...We struggle just like you as we have a very creative 4 year old. She's been like this since day one and keeps us on our toes. We totally agree with you on the creative parenting...you have to get them where it "hurts"...by that I don't actually mean hurting them. Emily doesn't get the time out thing...I think that is where she comes up with a lot of her ideas! And most of the time, our ideas of "punishment" don't work. Drives us crazy!!Katie Toddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17083053870339607071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1430525993202457270.post-27941805794609740722009-01-25T18:19:00.000-05:002009-01-25T18:19:00.000-05:00Time outs have NEVER worked for Acer. He would ju...Time outs have NEVER worked for Acer. He would judge what he wanted to do versus the punishment. I watched him chortle as he threw toys down the stairs and then move to the time out stair and sit himself down.<BR/>The method we've had that worked the best for us was 'Time In' He has to hold on to us, a pocket a belt strap, or something and hang out with us for 5 minutes while we continued doing whatever we were, before the need for time in. It takes the emphasis off him, almost ignoring his bad behavior (attention getting usually) and still letting him know it wasn't acceptable.<BR/>Heather BTHeather BThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17417295196847121763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1430525993202457270.post-4763314822697036642009-01-25T16:12:00.000-05:002009-01-25T16:12:00.000-05:00Oh and to answer your question- we found a great b...Oh and to answer your question- we found a great book called Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours by Kevin Lehman. He has some great, creative ideas. <BR/>Here's one I did- not from the book but Hailey was going through this odd phase of licking people to annoy them. So I made her lick her arm 25 times. Her tongue got dry and by the end she was over her licking phase. :)Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08780545525371040072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1430525993202457270.post-91868795983142241492009-01-25T15:12:00.000-05:002009-01-25T15:12:00.000-05:00To be completely honest I thought the same thing. ...To be completely honest I thought the same thing. I have never had a child poop all over so I have no idea what I would do. I know you are a wonderful and loving mother but I got nervous for you since you are in the adoption process. I know in our home study they asked us if we spank and wrote in the homestudy that we don't use corporal punishment...now I don't know how big of a deal that is or not. Maybe it doesn't matter but I tend to be a little paranoid. <BR/><BR/>That is the hard thing about blogging! I have said things and then rewritten them because I wondered if it came across differently than I meant. But anyone who has spent anytime on your blog can see you are beyond amazing in your mothering skills so it is probably fine. Just my 2 cents!!Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08780545525371040072noreply@blogger.com